Why people have affairs?
Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from millennium. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with problems, cause heartache, and other troubles. Also you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age dissimilarity, religious education, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking extramarital affairs. I suppose mainly though it is only the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your family or anybody else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, gigantic truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your finances are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the male is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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